"My parents gave me a purity ring and talked to me about waiting until I'm married to have sex. It wasn't forced; it just made perfect sense. "It's going to be awesome to say to my husband that I waited my whole life for him."
--Jordin Sparks
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She should just STFU.
Maybe YOUUU should STFU ... Unlike her, you got no class ... She's doing the right thing, she's smart to not end up like jamie whore-lynn spears.
uhmm you need to stfu.
shes smart and she is pure.
your stupidd and a whore.
u should just stfu u probably like already lost ur virginity she is the smart one unlike u
t m i.....i wish celebs would never talk..ever...and we already know the waiting till your a virgin thing dont work..how..2 words..JESSICA SIMPSON...
I heard a gross rumour that Jessica Simpson got around the whole virginity issue by doing anal before she was married instead.
i support her but......she will probably turn into another spears if it all fails
there is a huge difference between "society" teaching one about sex..and parents teaching their kids about sex..my parents taught me how to be sexually responsible at a very young age..and i never abused that..i had sex before i was married, but I always used protection, never had an unplanned pregnancy..never had a std..and now have been married for 13 years..you said you were in your twenties..well.. i dont want to harp on you..but as you get older, you may start to wish you have played the field a bit..
"...but as you get older, you may start to wish you have played the field a bit.."
What bullshit! You'll never regret doing the right thing.
"...you may start to wish you have played the field a bit..."
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why? so you can tell your husband youre used? so that you can tell him that someone else had at your body? how would you feel if your husband said on your marriage night that he'd slept with every other whore from here to new york? i think jordin sparks made a great descision...and her husband will love her that much more because she waited for HIM
My friend from HS was a virgin right up to her wedding day--at age 36!
Good for her. She's a true lady.
Whatever.
I said the same thing she did when I was her age.
Then I got Horny.
whore
Ok so girls are expected to be virgins and men are expected to have been around the block a few times. I never could understand that logic ! Who exactly are these men getting their experience from? teehee
there are purity rings for men too...=/
Savage, this is a great post, I could have said that too. (Not so well spoken but anyway all my thoughts are in your post)
Thanks.
i am happy she feels this way NOW, but what happens when you lose your virginity to rape?
Or you never meet that great guy, who will want to sleep with a 40 year old virgin?
They'll be lined up at the door!
I am not a big fan of abstinence; I recognize that it has its upsides, just as homosexuality has its upsides.
"...I recognize that it has its upsides, just as homosexuality has its upsides." Let's see, abstinence allows you to stay disease free, pregnancy free. Homosexuality gives you a sore ass. Hmmm...yeah I guess they both have their upsides.
Shes so right!
I look up to her!
And the Jonas Brothers!
all of them have purity rings!And so do I!!!
That so amazing how celebs are like that!!
I LOVE THE JONAS BROTHERS BTW!!!
♥
Also If you wait get married and get divorced they have another pledge for you to take if you are willing to to "re-virginize" ( i know how it sounds but it is what some people choose to do another belief)
and yes they wait until marriage again. I tend to do research on topic before making comments or forming opinions about them. One less ignorant person on a topic.
I reject this comment I'm no longer a christian and think these rings are idiotic you don't need a ring to keep you legs closed.
no one every said that the only way you can stay pure is by getting a purity ring, but its just an outer symbol of an inner commitment.
Love and sex are not the same thing. One is a choice NOT a feeling (love) and the other is an activity (sex). You cannot sustain a long healthy marriage or relationship that is based solely on the compatibility of its participant’s physical activity. That’s one reason why so many marriages fail- they do not know what to do for the other 23 hours in the day. Those who are wise enough to understand a relationship is based on communication not sex often choose to abstain from sexually activity and work on the thing that will last, communication… Choosing to be pure is a lot more than just waiting to have sex.
Fantastic! You're very wise.
that is totally the best way of putting it. its not about the sex and virginity, its about the emotions that come along with it. some of us just want it to be special and we think being a virgin when it happens is the best way.
i think thatshe is very smart for doing the right thing. I got one because it makes purfect sence. Whoever doesnt agree, u have ur opinon and i have mine, so leave her alone!!!!!!!!!!
Great Job Jordin u keep being pure and wait till u r married cuz it will be a whole lot specilier for u i love that ure such a great excample to us keep on shinnin
See this is the type of thing that realy fascinates me. I feel that it's bigger than what we all know, and it's hard just to think of it as black and white. The thing that sticks out in my mind is that what if her husband had not waited? Or, lord forbid, she had gotten raped, or never even find anyone at all? People want to say that virginity is a gift. Why are we basing worth on an act? Why, if you're not a virgin, you're supposely cheated out your spouse? Why can't be YOU as yourself, your love your promise of commitment ,etc be the gift? No, instead its whether or not a man put a penis in your vagina--just because you've had sex before doesn't mean that you don't have morals, your a whore, or you didn't love your spouse just enough to "hold out". love in itself is hard to find---why make it harder by telling people their sex lives will not be as great if they had not waited. that's why alot of themfeel guilty--people others are telling them that.
Shame and guilt can be powerful tools for good. People today need to feel more shame for what they do.
I don't really understand your comment. In the first sentence, you mention shame and guilt as if they're bad things. And in the next, you seem to state the complete opposite.
You've addressed many important topics that I agree with: what if her husband does not wait - does that make it less special for her to wait to be married to have sex? if you say yes, definitively, your response reveals a lack of mental and emotional depth. If you say that we are not bodies, we have bodies (by the definition of those who believe in souls), then, if sex allows connection on an emotional or soul-uniting level, whether someone has been physical with another person is much less of a factor than from a completely physical standpoint.
2. Rape is one of the worst and most unfortunate crimes ever committed. The complete transformation it can have on the life of an innocent man or woman through transmission of STDs, pregnancy or child support dues, and a redefinition of self, is one that is hard to overcome years after the incident. Allegedly, if you are raped you get your purity back (through what means I'm uncertain), but I can imagine the experience would drastically change the conscious and subconscious views of sex a person would hold, especially if they have no other sexual experience.
And the third is my favorite. I completely agree. There is absolutely no reason that anyone's worth should be based on whether they've had a sexual encounter. Especially their self-worth. We all have beauty to give to the world and no child is born onto this earth uttering damnations and hurling judgments at each other; that appears to be the work of "more mature" and "civilized" individuals. By the way, if you are a Christian, you have no right to pass judgments on people. According to your own holy book, God and Jesus, are sole owner to those rights. Many people's morals may be different than your own, but just because their choices fit their morals and not yours doesn't make them immoral.
Finally, to each person who has had their share of sexual encounters within or without marriage: you are not a slut. you are a beautiful, whole person, shaped by your experiences,your biology, and your knowledge, you are uniquely individual and special, you deserve romance and love and genuine care and respect from your fellow men. You are a true gift. And I am sorry if you have ever been judged harshly for unfathomable circumstances or the ideas in which you believe. May you be confident, conquer everything you undertake, and make the world a better place: a place where we are people, not parts.
In my opinion, absitinence is the stupidest thing on the planet. I did research (God bless Google/Wikipedia, amen :P) on it, and found out that 59% of marriages where the woman was abstinent and the man was not fell apart. 40% of marriages where both were abstinent fell apart. And a shocking 78% of marriages where the man was abstinent fell apart. So stick that up your virgin asses, Jonas Brothers. Have fun being divorced because you suck.
You trust Wikipedia? Are there no ther sources for information? Your research skills are lazy and your facts are incorrect. However, I suspect you have already made up your small mind on this subject. You really don't want facts...you react to emotion.
Wikipedia is not trustfl and if you divorce your spouse for sex then that shows how in love you relly are. you can always work together to have a better sex life. Maybe thats why you should wait so sex won't be what a elationshiip is based on.
you missed the whole point idiot
okay, i think this is a good thing, im waiting until marriage, so all you sluts who are saying its bad, go fuck :]
wat if the man she marries didnt wait lolz heart broken
Good for her.
Ok....if she wants to wait till marriage let her! Honestly I'm doing the same thing, its not for everyone but a lot of people do it out of respect for themselves and God, don't tell her she's going to end up just like Brittney Spears! Thats ridiculous! She makes a better role model than 95% of the worlds population, and like 99.9% of the celebs out there! But man Kathleen I hope to be married before 26! 36 is crazy devotion! And a long time! :S
She is a great role model!
She needs to teach this society a lesson!
Everyone's entitled to their own opinion, but nobody should be forcing their opinions down other people's throats, or act like they haven't gotten past the fourth grade by using superfluous vulgarity. Just try to respect other people's opinions, no matter how much you disagree.
As for Jordin Sparks, it is true that she may be not of the norm by staying true to her virginity. However, she is to be commended for her iron will in keeping her virginity due to the very fact that we live in a seemingly promiscuous society. She is stepping away from the conformist society that does not seem to care for or believe in abstinence anymore.
Sparks is an admirable person who exemplifies the shining beacon of hope that abstinence can work, and that abstinence works in wonderful ways that can never be known to people who have lost their virginity before marriage. I can't help but feel pity for those who have ruined it for themselves, as they would have lost that chance forever to discover it.
Sparks retains her honor, and she knows that by doing so, she will be able to experience the best that life has to offer.
You know, I just finished reading alot of the posts and taking in everyone's opinions and idea's. The person above me is correct in saying that it is wrong to try and "shove your opinions down other people's throats," however, the person that addressed the remark to Christians is a fool. I am a Christian, but you are being very stereo-typical to all of us when you say things like that; you talk about media influence.. How's this for media influence; Christians are often viewed as nut jobs because of some of the ones on TV. Everything doesn't have to be as serious ad cut-throat as its made out. My parents introduced Christianity to me at a young age and I am proud to say that it instilled values in me-it made me who I am. Today-of my own free will-I came across this page because I was looking for purity rings. Being pure is a life choice that I have decided to follow, and just because you chose another path doesn't mean that mine is wrong. In short, it doesn't give you the right to put me, or my religion down. Now, if something like rape were to occur, and your virginity is stolen from you, then no, that does not mean that you are not fit to marry, or any less of a person, but it still doesn't mean that the possibility of this happening should stop you from trying to wait. If you were raped, that doesn't mean that you cant still practise chastity by waiting to give yourself to your married, by choice this time, not force. Your being ignorant and rude when you suggest that all Christians share this mentality, and hopefully, I've proved my point in this post.
Is waiting to have sex for marriage right because the bible says so, or because it is just morally right period? If your basing your opinion on the bible solely then its right for you but not everyone believes in the bible, so not waiting isn't wrong for everyone. And if you do meet someone and you abstain until marriage, how do you know that you are psychically compatible? The two people could be compatible in all other areas, Faith morals beliefs etc., but not compatible physically. In my opinion sex should be special and with someone you care for, which doesn't necessarily mean a spouse, but if your with someone and you care for them, then damn it do it already!
Good for you Jordin! I wear a purity ring too! Sex was meant for marriage, that's what God intended it for.
I'm waiting too! And I wear a ring. It's awesome to see some celebrities set a good example.
amazing! she's great. she's making this decision for herself, we all go through the pressure of just saying 'let's do it' and whoever is strong enough to hold their ground and say no is damn strong! and to myself i will keep this promise!
Jordinnn your amazzzing!
Your trueee love will come to you one day
EVERY SINGLE PERSON in this world has a soulmate
and when they come your gonna know.
Waiting for the right person is the best thing you can do for them.
TRUE LOVE WAITS
God wants us all to respect our bodies and who we are.
GOD BLESS ALL OF YOU*
go jordin!!!!!im 21 and guess wat,proud to be 'untouched' if you know what i mean. Im getting one too. LOL to jordin,miley and selena gomez n to all those practicing abstenence. MWAH!
I can't believe some of the comments here! Anyone who comes with criticism gets called a whore! If you want to stay abstinent, that's your choice. But please respect other people's decisions too!
A whore is someone who charges for sex, not having pre-marital sex or many sex partners. Grow up!!!
I'm no longer Christian and no longer believe in this crap so I reject my prior comment and say to hell with that purity ring bullshit.
i think that jordin is doing a great thing wearing a purity ring, but as people have mentioned above what if she does get raped god forbid, well first of all then she would still be a virgin not technically but morally because she didn't break the promise and for it to be consider raped it would have been against her choice so.. she would still be giving her full virgin self to her HUSBAND, and she would be still be pure deep within her heart.. (GO JORDIN)
Jordin is a great role model for girls like me who are trying to decide if waiting is the right thing to do. Im 18 and decided myself that i want to wait until marriage to have sex after almost losing my virginity to my ex who proved that sex was all he wanted. GO JORDIN!!!!!!
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