Julian King's Mother Blogs About Loss On MySpace
"LETS SEE IM 29 YEARS OLD I HAVE ONE CHILD AND I'M ALWAYS BORED, I LOVE TO HAVE FUN EVEN START A LITTLE S*** HERE AND THEIR i HAVE TWO YOUNGER SIBLINGS MY SISTER IS JENNIFER HUDSON YES THE JENNIFER HUDSON AND MY BROTHER IS JASON,
I GUESS IT'S TIME TO UPDATE THIS WHEN I STARTED MY MYSPACE ALL OF THE ABOVE WAS TRUE , NOW BECAUSE I CHOSE TO DO WHAT WAS NATURAL TO ME AND LOVE SOMEONE , IT COST ME MY BEAUTIFUL FAMILY MY WONDERFUL BEAUTIFUL LOVING SUPPORTING MOTHER DARNELL, MY TRUE BLUE BABY BROTHER JASON , I LOVE U BIG BABY ...
It's pretty long. Click on the continue reading link below to read what she has to say.
AND LAST BUT NEVER NOT LEAST MY ONLY SON JULIAN , MY INNOCENT BABY ONE THAT WAS SHELTERED FROM ALL THE EVIL OIN THE WORLD BECAUSE WE LOVED HIM SO MUCH... BUT THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR LOVING SUPPORT, I KNOW SOME OF YAL HAVE YOUR OPINIONS AND YOU ARE ENTITLED TO THAT , LIKE WHY IS SHE LOGGING ON TO MYSPACE AT A TIME LIKE THIS , LET ME TELL YOU WHY I WAS HOPING THAT , THAT WAS A WAY TO MAYBE HELP ME GET MY SON, MY BABY THE ONE I CARRIED UNDER MY HEART FOR 8 1/2 MONTHS THE SON IT TOOK ME 21 HOURS OF LABOR TO BRING HERE THE SON I GREW TO KNOW AND LOVE FOR JUST A FEW MONTHS OVER 7 YEARS THATS WHY ...
AND NOW FOR THOSE OF YOU WHO ACTUALLY CARED THANK YOU FOR ALL YOUR WORDS OF ENCOURAGEMENT , THANK YOU FOR YOUR PRAYERS , THANK YOU FOR POSTING HIS PICTURE ON YOUR PAGES AS YOUR DEFAULT PICTURE THANK YOU... BUT HIS LIL SOUL IS AT EASE, I TAKE COMFORT IN KNOWING THAT JULIAN IS WITH MY MOTHER AND MY BROTHER AND MOST OF ALL THE LORD AND NOW HE'S MY ANGEL HE'S PROTECTING ME... ..
Thanks to TMZ for story.
I know this is a very touchy subject, and my heart goes out to the family.. But I just find something very odd and a bit disheartening to find that a mother who has just lost her own mother, brother and son in a violent act would have the time to post about it on her myspace.. you'd think she'd be too heartbroken and upset over what took place this past week.
I don't know, maybe it's just me.. I just found it rather odd.
Humans grieve in different ways, this is her way of coping. The human mind sometimes builds some sort of "protection" againts so much pain.
I, too, think its her way of grieving. My friend just lost her son and she posted on myspace not long after. Its also this mom's way of talking the world about her life. People are looking at her myspace now because of all this.
I don't think there's anything odd about it. Writing can be therapeutic. It doesn't mean she isn't also grieving. When you're in the midst of grief, life doesn't stop, unfortunately. You aren't just mourning; you're angry and you're hurt by people's judgement. I think she's trying to address people who are judgmental and she's also honoring her family by writing about how much they mean to her.
I kind of felt the same way, but at the same time, none of us can know how we would react to a situation like that. Everyone is different, and this could have been therapudic to her.
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<3 Heather
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Heart Breaking. I can not even imagine the horror movie your life would become during a time like that. God bless her for her families strenth to overcome their tragic loss.
Heather <3
Vera, I consider myself to be tuff, cause I've been hurt. I feel that I have to develop a tuff exterior; but reading the last part she wrote, I choked up. It hurts too much for words.....
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My heart goes out to her! How heartbreaking. Going on myspace is a sign of the times, nothing more. I think she was getting a lot of hits to find out news of her son...it's a way of getting her feelings out there to those who were concerned. It's more or less the way things are done nowadays...
What do you do all day if you've just lost your mother, your brother, and your son...how do you fill your time? All the things that filled your time are gone...she probably can't even go home. Imagine how is must be to know you let someone into your life that ended up truly destroying everything you ever cared for? I can't even imagine what "appropriate behavior" would be in those circumstances.
Thank you, Anonymous! You have amazing insight. As someone who lost a sibling in a tragic way, it's true-- you don't know what to do with yourself. Yes, there's people all around you grieving too and offering their support, but you're also incredibly alone. You're also physically weak and intense emotions are raging through you. To me what's amazing is that she was able to be so restrained in what she wrote.
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Poor thing. No one could possibly know what they would do in this situation. She is expressing herself as she feels she should. Bless her and her family.
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I feel so bad for everyone involved, and yes I think that posting on myspace in this day and age is normal. It's a form of self therapy to write it all down.
I think it is a tragic situation but not unlike many other tragic situations not involving ''famous'' people. Violence is very common in a ''hood'' and people get killed everyday. I am almost seek about reading about ''poor' Jennifer Hudson. She could of helped them to move to a better area. It also seems her family was involved with known criminals-there is no surprise there.Now politicians and media racing to honor her and mention how she is an Oscar winner etc. Her Oscar is honorary at best. Besides Oscar nowdays mens nothing. People get it for political reasons.
*sick*
She did try to get them out of that neighborhood! Her Mother, being the steadfast and strong willed woman that she was, refused to move out of her home of decades. Many people don't like change. Just because someone chooses to stay in their home and stay with what all they've ever known, doesn't make their deaths any less tragic. And it doesn't mean that the people who loved them dearly are feeling any less pain. A life cut short, is a life cut short. Plain and simple.
Plus, this was more than likely domestic violence and would probably have happened no matter where her family moved to even if the mom had agreed to move.
So you don't feel for the family? How insensitive. How do you know Jennifer didn't offer to help her family financially? Maybe they refused to move. Maybe Jennifer isn't to blame.....maybe it was the thug who killed most of her family!
I tis not about being insensitive. It is about sensationalism. Many people experience incredible hardship. It is just the way meadia approaches it with extra care for minority angle. This is not a Patty Hurst case.
can the measures be further stepped up to prevent such domestic violence? so many innocent lives are lost bcuz of this. i have to say, guns should be totally banned becuase those weapons really claimed many lives over the years by the heartless devils.
so our president to-be Obama, now we need MOOORE change to such situations. we really need your help. and one more thing, we shouldnt just because jennifer hudson is an Oscar winner that we only start to do something about it. there are still a lot of domestic violence cases unheard of and some are crying for help in their hearts.
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I don't want MY RIGHT to own a gun taken away
enough with "rights" already. That ammendment was made during a totally different world than the one we live in today. Unless you are law enforcement (and even law enforcement is questionable at times) no one needs guns....and tragedies such as this one are a perfect example of that.
A different world than the one we live in today? If you have any background in history, you will find that history (regardless of whether or not we learn anything from the consequences of our actions) always repeats itself. People escaped to the U.S. to avoid persecution. They gave us these rights in order to ensure our freedoms. If you have not noticed, the government has become increasingly intrusive and both parties are not free of fault. Neither conservatives or liberals care about the people; truth hurts.
yes, who the flip needs rights? lets create a communist society. You have to read the Constitution in whole and understand the rights given to people, including text that are barely quoted. Perhaps soon with the reation of North American Union and new money-amero your dreams will come true. Constitution will be banned and everybody will be zombified.
you are as bright as a tree stump. How many people have been killed by legal gun owners vs illegal gun owners? I bet ya the ratio is overwhelmlingly high for those who buy and own guns illegally.
I completely agree. Why do people want guns?? What's so great about owning something that can end a life? Isn't there enough things in the world to satisfy boredom and hobbyists that people feel such a strong need to own guns? Give me a break. Owning a gun shouldn't be a right. Why don't we all start owning machine guns too while we're at it? And bazookas and sniper rifles.
This is a fallacious argument because you assume it is the gun that is responsible for ending a life instead of the person. Whether or not guns exist, people will still kill other people. Injustice exists in the world whether we like it or not and the only way to solve it is by educating people and giving them the morals and values that will instill understanding and compassion for other human beings.
you did not read earlier response properly as response totally contradicts what you support. People are killed not because of guns, but because they grow up violent, do not have proper moral, mostly uneducated, greedy, and vindictive.
Banning guns will not solve any problems; in fact, things would only get worse. If you look back on history, any type of prohibition usually leads to the problems surrounding whatever has been banned intensifying. The reason people look down on working-class folks and their need for gun ownership lies in arrogance. These people own guns mostly because they hunt. I certainly wouldn't be considered conservative when it comes to most issues but I have to admit that liberals have misinterpreted and forgotten our rights and as a result, have demonized guns and gun ownership. Thus, people assume that if you own a gun, that automatically means that you are violent and depraved, which is not necessarily true in most cases where a person has obtained a gun LEGALLY. Do a little research and you will find that the reason the second amendment was because of the founding father's fear of a government that would abuse its privileges. Take away the rights of the people, and you have a country on its way to totalitarianism. Take away the guns from well-meaning, law-abiding citizens and you will have a society where only criminals will have access to weapons. As I said early banning guns will not solve any problems; only create more. People who want guns to kill will obtain them legally or illegally.
Amen to that
Couldn't have said it better myself!
Damn straight- if you outlaw guns, only outlaws will have guns.
I made the original comment about "enough with rights" I'm not against having "rights" I mean that would be ridiculous. but I guess in my little head I still hold onto the hopes that if violent materials weren't even available in the first place then maybe folks could be on a path to a better world. Though completly unrealistic my immature fantasy of a world wide utopia has a chance someday if everyone could let go of their hang ups, anger and power and money hungry ways. Obvisouly that will never happen.
CHOSE TO LOVE A VIOLENT THUG.... GTFOH! May God Bless Jennifer and her extended family during this horrific and senseless tragedy!
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This is sad and tragic in every way possible. No mother should have to bear the loss of her child, being famous or not.
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This is horrible, that poor child paid for this. My heart goes out to them.
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My heart goes out to all of them. May their family members rest in peace and may God give them the strength they need to grieve and keep pushing on.
I know this is such a tough time, but im am somewhat confused on why she barely mentioned her mother. Maybe she has already accepted her death and can move on. But find it hard to read and really didnt meantion the women who birthed her and raised her.
I know this is such a tough time, but im am somewhat confused on why she barely mentioned her mother. Maybe she has already accepted her death and can move on. But find it hard to read and really didnt meantion the women who birthed her and raised her.
What people don't realize is that when you suffer a tragedy, you don't magically change, life doesn't magically change. You are sitting there, the same person, and you have to grapple with the most unbearable emotions, not the least of which is rage. You don't suddenly become a stoic, heavenly person. The worst part is you are still human. Other people's judgement hurts you more than anyone can imagine because you are so vulnerable. People can't understand that unless they've been through it. Please don't judge, because you can't imagine the kind of pain your judgement causes.
And yes, she did mention her mother, she called her loving and supportive.
What irritates me most is that Jennifer Hudson's name is the only one mentioned in most articles when discussing her nephew. She won an Oscar (which she didn't exactly get for her superb acting or singing) so what, now she's the more important one? who gives a crap. it's not about her. it's about 3 people who tragically lost their lives. jennifer hudson is so bloody overrated.
What irritates me most is that Jennifer Hudson's name is the only one mentioned in most articles when discussing her nephew. She won an Oscar (which she didn't exactly get for her superb acting or singing) so what, now she's the more important one? who gives a crap. it's not about her. it's about 3 people who tragically lost their lives. jennifer hudson is so bloody overrated.
agreed, and besides boy's mother is not only uneducated by reading her blog, she is also negligent by bringing criminals home and having her mother raise her son. This is what people should talk about, not about poor Hudson and her Oscars. This is a typical ghetto story. And boy's mother looks like a ripe welfare recipient, perhaps if not for the family unworthy Oscar recepient. I do ot care if you get upset by reading this--it is what it is. And start thiking about your own families instead.
Those three people who lost their lives happen to be her mother, brother and nephew, so yeah, they do have something to do with her.
When you lose 3/4ths of your family maybe you won't be so insensitive.
She just lost her mother, her brother, and her baby boy. She's in total shock. Right now she can't even believe what happened. She can't believe they're all gone. In an instant her life as she knew it, changed forever. As the weeks go by, that hazy fog she's surrounded with will begin to wear off. And when it does, Lord help her. For now, she'll grieve as the numbing shock dictates. If it gives her comfort to blog about her situation, don't judge. She'll grieve in her own time, in her own way. She has a long road of healing ahead of her. Been there.
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