Joely Fisher Says To Adopt Domestically
It's been over a month since Joely Fisher welcomed her third child into her home, an adopted baby girl. Since the experience, the actress wants to urge potential parents to look inside their borders instead of traveling abroad to find their new child.
"I always thought that I would adopt. I've had many friends go into China, Africa or wherever [to adopt]. I went to Africa — not in search of a baby, as Ambassador for Save the Children — and they don't really want you to take their children. They want to sustain. They want to have a way to keep their countries prospering and have happy, healthy children. It's tough over there."
There are 70,000 children in foster care in the state of California. That's 7-0. It's unbelievable! There are many children in our own city that need parents."
What do you think about what Joely is saying?
Yes and unfortunately those are the unwanted kids... you know the brown ones. Guess we'll wait and see which kid she decides on adopting.
That is a ridiculous comment. It is not only "brown ones" that are not being adopted. AND - people adopting from other countries almost certainly guarantees they will NOT have a white baby. Your comment is ignorant.
I think Joely Fisher is 100% correct. There are SO many children in the US and in Canada that need homes. People need to be more aware of this.
It is not an ignorant comment if you look at statistics white babies are the FIRST ones to get adopted especially the blond/blue eyed ones.. while the other ones grow up. Most everyone who is adopting want infants not tots.
Well really - who cares if the babies being adopted are white, brown, black or whatever??? Isn't what's important that children in our OWN countries are being taken care of?
Babies are more likely to be adopted, yes, but as for the blonde/blue-eyed ones? I think you've got a misguided source.
Look, adopting is the most selfless thing a person can do, next to putting your child up for adoption in hopes of giving them a better life than you can provide for them. However it is done, I fully applaud and respect these families.
I have thought this for years and agree with her 100%. What sort of an example are we giving to other countries if we do not first care for our own?
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I absolutely agree with her!
I totally agree, I understand that there are people outside the U.S that need our help. But they need our help by helping them take better care of their children, and leaving them were they belong..with their mothers. I am sure the mothers really don't want us to take their kids away. They are just not capable of giving their children a better life and probably their way of doing that is just by giving them up. We should take care of our kids here in the U.S.
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That's certainly not the case in China.
I agree with her! I also agree that the first comment is out of line.
I have a friend who has two adopted nieces. They are from Russia and they are white. Biological parents are dead. One was about to turn of age where they would release her without any education or skills. Such a sad situation.
Clearly she's not versed with the terrors that can befall an adoptive parent in normal circumstances. I get to take my daughter to jail this weekend to see her birth mom who just popped up after 10 months. My daughter is almost 4, has been in foster care for over half her life (on two separate occasions) due to severe neglect such as being left in a dark house all by herself for hours, if not days, at a time, and our adoption won't be final for AT LEAST another 8 months, if ever.
In California, birth parents have all the rights and free legal counsel. Kids have a court-appointed attorney they've never met, and foster-adoptive parents have whatever legal counsel they can afford, but no right to be in the courtroom unless the judge decides to grant it.
If you care about kids and their rights, please work to put them first. And think happy thoughts for my family and others like us
(((((((((((((big hug)))))))))))))))) prayed for you
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Thats a rough situation you got going on there. :-(
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Exactly.
i thought the reason people did not adopt from the US was because it is too difficult, making people who want to adopt look to other contries who make the option easier for them.
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If I ever adopt, it would be from the US. Save your own before you save for another.
Obviously NONE of you people (with the exception of one) know what it is like to be NOT FAMOUS and trying to adopt from the states. Please its a joke, it can take YEARS. My sister in law just got to the 'foster' point of 'adoption' where she is unsure if she will even be keeping Jazmine. It took her 8 YEARS to get to this point and this is someone who has had foster children before. And then to top it off you invest all this time, love and energy but yet you know in the back of your head that this may not be forever cuz the crackhead parents may show up and in most states there is a RIDICULOUSLY LONG period of time where the biological parents can 'prove they are getting their shit togther to get their kids back.' So unless you REALLY know and by REALLY I mean have seen, have done this process yourself you should not judge. Sorry some people cannot wait 10 years for a child and if there are so many children in foster care in the U.S. then maybe its time the U.S. actually HELPED the people who want to adopt instead of catering to only 'famous' people. Please.
That's very true. My parents waited five years before I was matched with them. However, each state is different and the ability to donate huge sums of money sways unfairly to the celebrities side.
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I used to work in Children's Services here in L.A., and yes, it is tough and takes forever to adopt domestically. I can't even start to describe the suffering I've seen first-hand - the children and the foster parents (the good ones, not the neglectful ones of which there are some) are the ones who get the short end of the stick when the drug addict parents show an iota of getting their **** together. It's a weird, backward system.
As he parent of an adopted child, I don't think it really matters. Country/ethnicity has nothing to do with it. The point is that you do it!! I will say; however, that our system here (which we used) takes a very long time (sometimes years). It really should be revised.
adopting domestically isn't exotic enough for most celebrities
its sad, but sooo true!!
some celebrities need to promote movies so they have to adopt from another country in order to make headlines....it's just the way it is.
As an adoptee, I applaud Joely on this. It really would be a help to strained foster and children care centers to give a loving home to the children in our country.
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I totally agree with her. I already have a daughter & since I'm still way too young, I hope I can adopt when I'm older - like 30's or even 40's. And I plan to adopt in my own country - despite the fact we have a ridiculous law that only allows married couples to adopt.
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Unless there is more to this quote that what is on INO, I'm not sure that's what she is saying. It sounds like domestic adoption was the right choice for her and her family and there is no denying that there are so many children - both in the US and in other countries - that need moms and dads. Of course international adoption isn't the first choice for African and Asian or other countries. That doesn't change the fact that right now there are children in those countries that need parents, and that international adoptions can be a real blessing for those children.
No need to worry. Angelina Jolie will buy up all the "brown" kids that no one else wants.
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I can't believe how ignorant and offensive some of the comments here(the first comment and one just before mine for example).
See for yourself what an adorable baby girl who by the way is not caucasian has got a new family, loving mother and siblings who i'm sure will be the great big sisters and brothers to her.
http://www.celebrity-babies.com/2008/11/joley-fisher-in.html#more
For those who has to go through the tough system to have adopted child i just have to say i keep you in my prayers and God help you to give love and care to those children. And i do see that it's unfair that some people got to spent years fighting for the right to have adopted child,the system should help in the first place those children to have stable loving families.
8-10 years!??!?! this is ridiculous.
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where i live it takes years (about 5) to legally adopt a child. this makes some couples take care of "illegal" babies, which causes LOTS of troubles years later, because sometimes biological parents suddenly remember "hey, I have a baby!" and show up to take their child back - which is stupid because they never took care of them in the first place. it's horrible, because usually the court gives them the child.
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