Brooke Burke Blogs About Sleep Training Her Child
Brooke Burke may be a model and an actress, but she is a mother first and foremost. She took to her blog (and Twitter account) to talk about the difficulties she's been having sleep training Shaya, her youngest son.
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Morning,
I just gave Shaya his first real milk bottle as he is a year old this week. He threw it up! I will try again in a few hours. He slept through the night three nights in a row and I was so excited until last night when he woke up again wanting to come into my bed. I had a family bed with Neriah and Sierra for five years. Not married to their dad anymore, LOL!!!! Rain was in my bed for her first six months, and then moved successfully into her crib. When Shaya was born, Rain wanted to be in my bed gain. We had also just moved into a new house, so I believe that the change affected her a bit. She is in a big girl bed, so every night she makes her way down the hall and crawls into my bed. I have to admit, I love the late night cuddles but I do miss sleeping next to David. Shaya cries every night for David or me to get him out of his crib and put him in bed with us. We are soooo exhausted. I thought I was getting somewhere this week when he made it through the night 3 times. I actually felt like a new woman, it is such a hard time, a difficult transition, and there are many ways to conquer getting your child to sleep. I never believed in tough love, I always enjoyed having my babies in bed with me, but after four, it is really affecting my days. Sleep deprivation is a serious thing, and has many negative effects. It affects your metabolism, which will slow down getting back to your target weight, your memory, moods, immune system, libido, and much more. I am tired of having bags under my eyes, no energy, and interrupted nights. A sleep nurse or sleep specialist was never an option for my family, but something’s got to give. I just listened to the “Sleepy Planet” CD and I know that letting your child cry it out for three terrible nights seems to do the trick for many parents, I just can’t seem to do it.
Sleepless in Malibu…
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A few people on Twitter offered Brooke the "let him cry it out" advice, and she didn't appreciate it. Brooke responded: "guess u missed the point."
It's hard. But we all eventually learn how to sleep right? And when it's over, you blink and your kids are in school. Don't make me start crying about my two little ones.
Did you co-sleep with your kids? Did you let them "cry it out"? Or somewhere in between?
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I have 3 kids, 4,3 and 6 months and my middle child keeps waking up wants to sleep w/ me. I just get up put her right back to bed and I lay w/ for about 10 min. till she goes back to sleep then I go bcak to my bed. I do this 2 times every night. I am hoping she grows out of it.
You're good... I have two kids, 3 & 6. The youngest doesn't even bother coming, but my 6 year old comes to our room every single night... But we let him sleep with us; therre is no way I'm walking him down to his room, stay with him until he goes to sleep and go back to my room... oh no :-)
300 points
God Bless you moms out there. I don't know how you do it.
5035 points
I let both of mine cry it out at 4 months and they've been sleeping through the night ever since. No problems here at all.
Both my boys never slept in my bed, and were sleeping through the night by the time they were around three months old. You have to let them cry some. I am not saying you let them cry for an hour. But you let them cry for a couple of mintues, come in and talk to them and rub their back or whatever and leave. Do not pick them up. Plus always put them to bed while they are awake and not sleeping. That way they learn to fall asleep on their own. This has worked for me with both my boys.
Of course when they are sick, none of these rules apply! lol!
Those are my rules too. I've always seen them work.
330 points
My 4 year old always wants to come into our bed. During the work week, I'll send him right back to his bed and let him cry himself back to sleep (my husband hates it) But on weekends I let him lay in bed with me for a little in mornings and watch his kiddie programs (cuddle-time :))
2210 points
My first two were wonderful sleepers and took to the crib immediately. My last was not quite as agreeable about the idea of sleeping alone. I couldn't let her cry it out, either.
Wow, she does not need to get b*tchy with the people who are trying to help her by saying that they missed the point of her post! I guess the sleep deprivation is bringing out her claws.
68589 points
She wasn't bitchy, just honest that she's not interested in the "cry it out theory".
i agree she was being b*tchy-don't tweet if you don't want a response
I agree. Reading that made me like her just a little bit less.
my little one is 16 months and she still wakes up 2 times a night for her bottle. She doesnt like to fall asleep in her bed. She starts crying as soon as you put her in it. She HATES it. Every evening she falls asleep on the pile of blankets on the floor and then i take her to her bed. I tried to follow the routine from the beginning, i tried for 1 month to put her in her bed, sing the song etc etc. I was exhausted because every evening all i could do is make her bath, feed her and try to put her to bed... after work. And i had an awful lot of laundry, ironing and cleaning waiting for me, apart from her waking up in the night. It simply doesnt work with her. now she ends up in our bed all the time... my friend's child is 10 months and is sleeping through the night since he was 3, without any efforts. I tried to let her cry but after one hour my heart was broken listening to her. I can't do it :( I believe, they are all different and formula that works for one does not necessary work for another one.
300 points
I only have one child (2 1/2) but from the very beginning, I had him in the bassinet until 6 weeks, then straight to the crib. I feel very strongly that my husband's and my bed is "our" bed. At times it was hard, but I believed that keeping my marriage #1 on my priority list would benefit our child greatly.That being said, he wasn't a "sleep thru the night" kind of kid. at six months, I did the "let him cry" method and in literally 3 days- he started sleeping thru the night. It was hell on me, but I felt he needed to learn to calm himself- by himself. Now he actually likes to go to sleep :)
15130 points
The only time my daughter shared a bed with my husband and I is when we are traveling. Sometimes I wanted her to sleep with us at home but she refuses. I am fine with letting Amelia cry it out but she slept very well since infancy and now she's going to be 2 at the end of the month. We're just getting over the paci now so that's our latest hurdle.
Screw your husbands. Who cares about them. They just cheat on you anyway, dipshits! Your babies are more important.
You are the epitome of INO readers!
She needs to be in bed with her husband, serving him. Those kids will fall to sleep eventually on their own.
If it were my wife, she would know what to do or else!
OMG, "she needs to be in bed with her husband, SERVING HIM"!?!?!?! You're hilarious. More like the other way around. Obviously you are a male!
56188 points
Geez. Praise God I live in a free country (so far) where I can choose how to mother my child. I know full well what works for me (attachment parenting all the way) might not work for you, but that's simply because all families are different.
300 points
I rarely let the kids sleep in bed with me. My oldest (7) knew since she left the crib that she wasnt allowed and my three year old sometimes sneaks in when i'm sleeping if i forget to lock the door. My youngest (1) sleeps in her crib--with a bottle, a terrible habit, but I need serious physical space when i'm sleeping. Dont get me wrong, when there newborns, I might let them sleep in the bed for a few when there napping cause they get comfortable when there eating and breastfeeding while I was still in bed. But it was never a habit.
Hey 12:19, that's exactly how I feel about wives! Women are only after money......once the money runs out, so do they, but only after lying and cheating for a good long while. Guys, don't ever get married. You'll regret it for the rest of your life, I guarantee you.
375 points
All of my kids have spent atleast the first 6months in my bed with me (I have 4). It just seemed so much easier with breastfeeding, rather than getting up and down throughout the night. Adjusting back to beds wasn't easy for some, my oldest daughter had the hardest time, but the youngest is very independant. I couldnt' let them cry it out either, so I can understand where Brooke is coming from. It takes time, but like you said, they grow up so fast and you're missing the moments. Until that happens, its all about the NAPS you can sneak in ;)
I have a 2 yr old boy and he´s de best thing in our lifes. Night time is a scary place for a child, we are grown ups we know there are no monsters out there and we know we are never gone leave our child alone, but eh kids dont they needs to feel safe and its our job to make them feel save and if for that we need to lose some sleep so be it. I co-sleep alot of nights with my son, of course its great when he makes it the whole night in he´s bed but if he doenst what are we going to do? Just leave them there alone and scared?! Not for me! My son is welcome in our bed anytime.
As a man, let me just say that the co-sleeping REALLY puts a damper on intimate opportunities with my wife. It's all about the kids now. We have no private time. We might divorce because of it. I believe the couple should come first to a certain extent instead of letting children rule the roost, and the bed.
They should cry it out after age 3. Before that you should give in to their needs. After age 3 children can reason and you can explain things to them.
@Randy: you're right, co sleeping sucks. I know, I have a 4 yr old, my man works the nightshift and doesn't get home till 3am. So instead of divorcing your wife and complaining about no private time, use your imagination. Sneak downstairs and have sex on the washer. Behind a bush in your backyard. Makeout in the kitchen. Do something different, don't get divorced because you're not getting laid, jeez man. I wake my lazy ass up at 4am and make sure we have at least an hour together while the kid sleeps. It's about adapting. And it's work. So work it.
We co-slept with our little one (now 14 months) for quite a while. Around 10 months, it got to the point where no one was getting any sleep. We let him cry it out - and now everyone is alot happier. Sorry, but I don't believe the "crying it out method" is any cause for therapy.
*yawn*. booooo-ring.
Although I couldn't read through this entire blog, but GET A CLUE BROOKE!!! This is what happens when you let your babies sleep in your bed for so long. I put my kids in their crib, 1st night home from the hospital. So glad I did. And it doesn't make me any less connected to my children either.
I co-sleep (and co-slept) with both of my kids. Never ever let them cry it out. Such a bad thing to do. They just give up b/c it's too much to bear. Not b/c they learned how to sleep. Never understood how people can be so heartless.
And for those who don't have enough fantasy to have a fullfilling love life - buy a book and read how to have one, goodness me!
I would soooooo love to suck Davids c0ck!
1967 points
i really think brooke is showing her age or lack of sleep.
I see that I am alone on this opinion, but I work with medical examiners and I cannot tell you how many infant deaths we get a WEEK due to co-sleeping. That is one of the most dangerous and selfish things a parent can do to their child. They do NOT need to sleep with you. Besides it being potentially fatal it is also sending the wrong message to the child. They need to learn to sleep on their own, in a safe environment. There is more than one benefit to not sharing your bed with your children. Think about it.
I don't see anything wrong with letting a baby not a newborn adjust by themselves. Of course they're going to cry. They can't talk. I don't think it should be done for hours but let them cry five, ten minutes at a time and check on them. If you run to them every time and grab them out and put them in your bed they aren't going to get it when you suddenly want to keep them in another room.
to the anonymous that works with the medical examiners...
I was always putting my baby to her cot until i was so exhausted from breasfeeding every 2 hours that couple of times i fell asleep in a sitting position with baby in my arms.
Thanks God, she didn't fall to the floor but was just about to...
After she was 3 months old (not before) i started breastfeeding her laying on my side so if i fell asleep during the breastfeeding, she was much safer in my bed!
It is not black and white and you should always estimate risks for yourself.
Taking this risk involved putting your child in harm. That's a risk you shouldn't take. I would recommend that action for anyone.
*wouldn't*
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