Oprah Gives Rihanna Advice About Chris Brown And Domestic Abuse

Good for her!

hm, i'm biased. i can believe that oprah does honestly care about rihanna and the d.v. subject in general. but everyone also wants to have a piece of this scandal and turns it into tv ratings (= money).

O is right, but she is not saying anything that has not been said before. It bothers me that more black entertainers are not speaking out about this. Usher said something and took it back; I heard that John Legend spoke against what Chris did and stood by what he said. The black entertainment industry has stood quiet. P Diddly or Puff Daddy or whatever that monkey is calling himself is actually encouraging them to get together! she doesn't own Chris anything. They don't have kids together or a marriage. Rhianna is not like some women who don't have any resources; some of these women have to stay with their abusers. This is sending the message to young girls that look up to her. Is OK to stay if he beats you; Is not! and love is not suppose to hurt!

i sincerely doubt rihanna will listen to her...oprah & the hip hop community have a really icey relationship.

Oprah gets rating with or without the Chris and RiRi story. Oprah is speaking out against abuse in relationships, like she has done on her show many times before. Oprah has said she was in abusive relationships before. BET is also having a show on domestic violence on 106andPark. I think that it was easier for Rhianna to go back to Chris because the hip hop/rap community see nothing wrong with what he did. Chris is not held accountable for what he did, he is laughing it up and jet skiing, like he didn't do anything wrong. The time is for him to take some time, and show remorse. The way the hip hop/rap community treat the women, rap and sing and call them bitches and hos. What do you expect? where is the respect for their women? After the pictures of RiRi's busted face came out? she shouldn't even look at Chris again...EVER!!. what type of woman lets a man do that to her face? disrespect her like that? and then she is going to go back to him?

If at such a young age he beats her like that what will he do later...

Cudos to you Oprah! I love you no matter what the haters say! Now if only Rih Rih can learn to love herself!

Rihanna is a dumb a s s for going back with someone that beat the living s H I t out of her

It's not like Rihanna is the ONLY woman in the world who is abused, but well...

Well she KNOWS she will be hit again; that isnt the point and that doesnt make her want to leave. She knows shes beenhit before and knew it would occur again (the latest event being the "next time")
She is there for other reasons.... when your mind is vulnerabe to that kind of thinking, environment, treatment etc its a lot more complicated than hit or not hit.
Plus it IS posible for an abusive person to no longer be an abusive person; in fact no one "is an abudive person'! They only believe false beliefs about themselves and others whih lead to such abusive behavior. and beliefs an be altered.
The abusive mindframe is intricate and supported by its own topsy turvy logic which is shared by both individuals. Remember that abusers ARE victims, eg victms are abusers (become) them, even if not physically manifested. (eg they are toward themselves in thought or choice etc etc)
I could go on forever about it LOL

Rihanna is young and impressionable so perhaps it's difficult for her to be rational. Personally, I don't understand *at all*. if someone hit me, I'd be out of there! I doubt she'll listen to Oprah.losethatgirl blog

I'm sick of hearing how young and impressionable Rihanna is. She's a 21 year old woman not a teenager. She went back to Chris Brown because she's S T U P I D.

Yes, Oprah is in this story for ratings and money, she probably also wants to help, but if there weren't money in it she would do it off camera.
Domestic Violence needs harsher consequences, not that it will stop the problem, jerks who beat up other people to obtain control will always beat other people to obtain control, but they should be put away for a long long time so the victims have time to rebuild their strength and lives.
Someone who's never been in a similar situation should not spout off that Rhianna is dumb {or other explitive filled adjective here}. Rhianna doesn't know she's being ridiculous because he has convinced her she's nothing without him. She NEEDS court ordered time away from him, it's crazy that courts will allow a vicitim to mandate weather or not there should be RO's, they don't do that for children, they take the kids away and force the kids and the parents to get counselling before they are allowed to have supervised visits. It's insane that a court can identify and acknowledge that victims of domestic violence have been abused and controlled beyond the point of rational thought, but will then allow the victim to decide, at least in part, the consequences of the abuser.

Rihanna is not the only woman in the world that gets abuse, and she is not the last. I feel because she has money, and Chris Brown is in the spotlight, that people make a bigger deal! Man should never put his hands on a woman, and a grown ass 21 year old should never put her hands on a immature child. However, the situation went down, how dare the media and the public judge anyone. The whole situation is taking out of content, and the real woman who get abused, never get this much support. Especially, a woman of color! If, Rihanna was not a singer and Chris Brown was not in the spotlight, and he whipped the hell out of her, no one not even Oprah would give a damn. The sad part about is statics show that 75% of African-American, Latino, Native-American, and Asian woman report being abused or raped. In addition, 95% of White woman always be reported as abused or raped victims. Why? The reason why is because of the cultural barriers, some woman of color do not believe in standing by their man, or happens in the family stays in the family. Overall, Rihanna is a hot topic because she is in the spotlight, and the picture were posted on the internet, no one would really give a damn if Rihanna was just some average colored woman!

I'm really glad Oprah said something. This makes up for my annoyance of her for gushing over the Obama's 24/7 ( I did vote for him too...Im not a hater).......Im glad she spoke up about this. I have noticed alot of black entertainers seem to be sticking up for Chris Brown, and kept using the "Well, we DONT KNOW what REALLY happened" line of defense...even after that horrible picture came out!!! Sherri Shepphard from The View was one of them...as a woman, I would think she would feel differently. Well, now the police report is out, and we do know what happened...where are all of his supporters now? I can't wait to see the domestic violence show on Oprah. ***annie***

miss.O,i have been beaten by mother,grantmother,aunts,school kids. an a man that said he love me. i had one kid , he beat her too. my domestic violence i was not to live, to this day. there is no love for me , not by the ones that saids they love me . i can right a book . look to make you happy!! no one will, but you IVORYj.williams

Oprah is a good person, but she sees black and white only. I can't understand why she's so convinced that Chris Brown will hit Rihanna again. He's only 19, and from what I understand, he's seeking counseling and anger management. He has plenty of time to be rehabilitated. I don't mean to take domestic violence lightly at all, but I think she's out of line to suggest that someone who made a grave mistake such as physical abuse will continue to do so. That would be like people saying that Oprah never grew out of her teenage promiscuity. PEOPLE CAN CHANGE! I know of several couples whose abusive relationships have made a turn around, due to joint effort with counseling. They obviously felt it could be salvaged. Maybe Rihanna feels compelled to believe they can have a healthy relationship, which is not impossible, if that's what they're willing to work for. Again, it's a joint effort. They're in the public's eye, so it's hard to work on a relationship without people analyzing their every move. Rihanna (a beautiful, confident woman) doesn't strike me as timid or self-conscious. And, Chris Brown basically appears to be a good guy whose past came back to haunt him, after having witnessed the abuse of his own mother. I think a more suitable theme for Oprah's show this week would be the topic of YOUTH SELF ESTEEM, because that pretty much sums up alot of issues involving our youth; such as dating, HIV and STDs, teen pregnancy, gangs, bullying, etc. I pray that the media and other celebrities will cease their preoccupation with these 2 so they can get back to some normalcy soon.

It's pretty hard to feel sorry for someone who goes against what a billion people are telling her by going back to an abuser. There's no cure for stupidity.

Omg guys...She isn't picking on Rihanna. She just using a familar face for us all to relate to. In any case...nothing she did could have made him do that 2 her. Its sad that people are giving negative feedback. Women are actually dying from this. And how can O ruin his Reputation? She didn't hit her O.o

ri-ri should give orphra some diet advice. "gettin beat keeps me skinny, bizzzatch!!"

I met my hubby in college, we were 20 years old. He had just gotten out of relationship with a beautiful girl that dogged him and everyone knew it. They had an abusive relationship, but I didn't know that. After dating for a year we went out to a movie and pizza. On the way home I asked him about a female that I saw him talking to after class, I knew she liked him because she was BOLD and talked about him loudly around me. I called her a B&T&H and told him she sleeps with everyone. He hauled off and punched me in my left jaw (while driving). Of course we almost flipped the car until I realized fighting back would do no good. I went to bed without talking to him. I woke up to Breakfast in Bed, 1 Rose and tears with an apology. Fast forward 13 years, after 2 separations and finally taking him back for a 3rd time (we have 2 kids too), it took him 32 days before he showed his ugly head again. I made the kids go to their room as he's shouting and ranting. I called the cops, my brothers and parents and told them I think I just killed him. By the time everyone arrived, the Butcher knife was stuck in the wall and we were wrestling trying to get it. This man has blamed me his entire adulthood for all his problems. We have been divorced 5 years and he doesn't have a relationship with his children. He told me as he was leaving in handcuffs, he MARRIED me and expected it last forever and he wouldn't rest until we were together. Rhi Rhi, if it happens once, it will continue to happen. It doesn't matter about couseling etc...., he truly has to want to stop taking his insecurities out on women. I forgot to mention he was adopted at 2 weeks...I think that's his problem. he may have felt rejected by him mom, therefore have no RESPECT for women. Find your inner strength and move on!

No one can make her leave him if she doesn't want to!!! Just like every other abused person.

I am always glad when anyone does a show about abuse.

I am one of the lucky ones, I was finally able to get out.

I'm startled at how quickly we've created a victim. BOTH Brown and Fenty need help. Who spoke out when these two children were acting out very grown up roles living together and overcommitting? Both grew up in homes where violence was the way to solve conflict. As a survivor I cannot defend Brown, but neither can I dismiss the part the survivor plays in any action. I was the Rihanna in my first marriage so I know. I learned to slap and kick and throw things with the best of them. That behavior followed me into my second marriage. And it was only when my new husband sat me down and calmly said he refused to be in a relationship that involved violence. Period. I had to "unlearn" certain things. So does Fenty and Brown.

While we're all ready to ruin a 19 yr old, why hasn't anyone mentioned Rihanna's song that talks about this very subject? In "Ima Fight a Man Tonight" Rihanna sings of believing her man is cheating so she wilds out on him and vows to keep swinging, "Until I see police lights." Irony is a mother. Why is it OK for Fenty to be the victim (I word and state of mind I loathe) and equally OK for her to teach a generation of girls that its OK to fight a man? Sure, we love our celebrities but who is outraged for the millions of girls who will take her advice and initiate the fight?

Oprah can discuss this for "all the Rihanna's of the world." That's what she does. But the hip hop community is the last to get a say on how to treat women...unless of course she's getting down of the flo', shaking what whe got, or gettin' them dollars. And since when did TMZ justice become the rule of the day?

I say let due process take it's course.

Lol, Oprah doesn't need ratings. Oprah doesn't even need her show. That was a dumb comment...lol What she is doing is probably hoping Rihanna will watch it and wake up. Not only her but the women out there living in abusive relationships. I don't understand people who take DV lightly. Even a slap is not to be taken lightly. And it goes both ways - man or woman. I am not a huge Oprah fan, but if she can use herself as a platform to get the word out, then more power to her.

I was married only 2 weeks and my husband promise to hit me.I listen to him and sooner I was alone I got a few of my close and left him.It was the best decision of my life. even though I was alone in the country and not know the language I was not let a man to have control of my life.

I just know when I was 19, 20, 21, I did things that I now regret. Hopefully, this whole incident was such a rude awakening for both of them, it'll never happen again. It's just that I have a hard time with Oprah labeling Chris Brown as a perpetual abuser. That is so NEGATIVE. Most judges in a court of law would give someone that age another chance to get themselves together, provided they've demonstrated responsibility. It seems Chris has done this, and he and Rihanna are trying desperately to get on with their young lives. I just think Oprah should carry on with business as usual, and not try to be Rihanna's adviser. All the celebrities need to let Rihanna seek private counseling.

Can anyone making comments please refrain from referring to "black" celebrities/famous personalities as apes or monkeys. That's the last name that should be used, especially after the New York Post cartoon incident. Let's just obliterate it completely.