Although things are going well between Carrie Underwood and Mike Fisher, she wants to make one thing perfectly clear: they are NOT cohabitating.
“No, call me old-fashioned. He’s there. I’m here,” Underwood, 26, tells Ellen Degeneres in an interview to air on the TV host’s program Wednesday. “We’re both doing our thing and it’s good. The next guy I move in with will be my hubby. Whoever that is. I’m not saying it’s going to be him.”
Carrie said she and Mike have been dating for nearly a year, which is the longest relationship she’s been in so far. And to think, it nearly didn’t happen. When a mutual friend tried to introduce them, Carrie was turned off by the idea of dating a hockey player. She had some specific questions for the friend.
” ‘Does he have his own teeth?’ ‘No but, he’s got his really good dentist.’ ” Underwood gives a thumbs down.
” ‘Where does he live?’ ‘Canada.’ ” Thumbs down. “I love Canada, but that is a long-distance relationship,” Underwood adds.
But it all worked out, she concludes.
“We see each other more than people think we see each other,” she says “We don’t go out like publicly. We just do our thing.”
Carrie sounds like a very mature young woman! What do you think about living with someone before you’re married: it’s the 21st century and just what people do, or is it better to wait until after getting married to live together?
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It’s a religious thing.
Cass those statistics are really old and have since been called into question. Almost everyone gets divorced these days, whether they have lived together before marriage or not.
She’s a bitch.
I think that those who live together are less likely to get married. Living together feels like being married so there’s not that big push to get it in writing. I really like living alone, but if my guy is over 90% of the time anyway why not save the money and consolidate into one household? Being happy is the only thing that really matters in the end.
I am 22 years old and have been dating that same guy since I was 15. We know we are getting married in a year or 2, but we are still chosing to live seperately until then. We are doing it bc we think part of the excitement of getting married is to start a life together.
I don’t judge any couple for moving in together before marriage though. I think it’s to each it’s own. Every relationshp is different and hopefully, whatever steps are taken, they lead to a long happy life together.
Stats don’t lie…..
http://divorce.suite101.com/article.cfm/living_together_before_marriage
I have lived with 3 men. The first we divorced because he is gay. The second turned out to be an abuser and my now husband and I lived together for over 2 years before getting married. To each his own.
You’re right! I agree that part of the excitement of getting married is starting it all fresh. My husband and I lived separately before marriage and making that transition made our marriage more real. It feels like more of a commitment that way somehow. But people will disagree and to each their own.
Of course statistics lie. For instance, Stanley’s study didn’t take into account the fact that people who choose not to cohabit before marriage (a mere 30 percent of couples) also tend to be more religiously or socially conservative and more opposed to divorce–so saying that people who oppose divorce are less likely to divorce is nothing earth-shattering. Nor did it control for the influence of family income, religion, and age at marriage on the decision to divorce. And that’s not to mention Stanley’s sample size of only 1,050, which is not nearly close to almost large enough to infer anything about the population as a whole. Which is also not to mention that correlation doesn’t equal causation anyway.
So, yeah, statistics lie all the time. That’s why they’re generally used by people who are too lazy for real analysis.
I’m all for living together before marriage, but I also understand that some people have religious convictions and beliefs and may not feel that way. Whatever you are comfortable with.
I have also been dating the same guy since I was 15, and we moved in together last year (when I was 22, I am 23 now). Most of our relationship was long distance, I would say the actual time we spent together in the same place was 2 months total. Sounds strange, but we decided after I graduated from college to just go for it and move in together. But we get along very well (although there are definitely fights) and I do not regret it at all, I feel like I’ve gotten to know every side of him and it has given me realistic expectations about marriage for when that day comes.
Well said ACG.
Amen to that sister!
Yes. It is a religious thing. If you don’t have a problem with divorce, then you probably don’t have a problem with living together. Jesus had a problem with both. But then again, you morons wouldn’t know because you don’t read that little book called the Bible. And the sad part is you probably call yourself religious and you know zilch. Living with someone before marriage is sin, as the Bible states, because it is fornication. It is sin to have sex outside of marriage, which ppl who live together do. I honestly don’t understand the reason to live together besides the sexual benefits; then again, that is really the only reason, right? You know what the Bible says about fornicators…that’s right–they will be in hell. It’s your gamble.
Is it possible to really know someone, without spending time living together?
I can imagine, once you move in together, you really notice the other’s bad/weird habits
Completely agree! I knew my husband for only 3 months before we moved in together and never had roommates before that. We lived together for 3 years before getting married. I think it’s up to the person or persons but it worked out for us. I couldn’t imagine not living with someone and then marrying them and ending up not being able to stand them.
I’m not saying you should live with every person you date of course but if it feels right and you have an incling this could be the one, then do it!
Whatever floats your boat re: living together before marriage. I’m a firm believer that you can overcome any “roommate obstacles” through good communication and commitment, but if a couple wants to live together that’s only their call.
Different people have different situations.
Not living together before you get married seems like a bad idea to me personally
I think people can do whatever they want but I agree with you. I think it’s a little easier transition when you have lived together before marriage.
Well my parents are super conservative and that would never happen with me! Plus I’m Indian so our parents tend to be traditional – at least they are in the south!!
i say ppl can do whatever they want and works for them best. as long as they love each other and make each other happy that’s what counts.
*clap clap*
I have no problem with it either way.
ditto.
Pffft… WTF?? Who ever said it was a sin to live with someone before marriage? It’s not something I would do personally, but I don’t see it as a sin what so ever. It just depends on the particular person. Ridiculous.
Read the statistics on divorce…those who have lived together before marriage are more likely to get a divorce than those who have not lived together before marriage.
Ummm..personally I think people that haven’t lived together and get married are more religious so they think divorce is also a sin. They put up with the marriage and are unhappy to not “go against the lawd”
Whats wierd about this is she is so fired up about not living with a guy unless they are married but he stays at her house when hes there and lives on the bus and hotels with her when he travels with her. We all know they are fooling around with each other. So whats the deal with living together. She said she isnt good at commitment in an interview recently, she also said if they had to be together alot they would hurt each other. She met him in oct of 08, they started dating in 02/09 and now engaged and married? What is she thinking.