Now THIS is an honest interview! Gwyneth Paltrow admitted that after the birth of her second child, son Moses (who turns four today), she did not connect with him right away.
“At my lowest, I was a robot. I just didn’t feel anything. I had no maternal feelings for him – it was awful.
“I had no thoughts of harming him, thank God, but I couldn’t connect, and still, when I look pictures of him at three months old, I don’t remember that time.
“My problem was that I never acknowledged anything was wrong. I just carried on as normal, and I just felt crazy. It was Chris, actually, who said out loud that something was wrong. And that was such a relief when he did because it was confirmation that it wasn’t just me.”
Apparently, what Gwyneth realized was that she needed to spend some time on herself, including going back to work.
“That was the beginning. That was when I cracked it – I started exercising and I started thinking about working again.
“That’s my problem, though. Sometimes I have a hard time saying what I need to say. I’ll be annoyed. I’ll stew. I’ll build a wall around me and give off the silent treatment – and I know that’s not healthy.”
I think A LOT of us can relate to how difficult it can be to ask for what we need.
I have mixed feelings about this interview, though. On one hand, I think it’s incredibly brave for Gwyneth to talk about this. Mothers having trouble attaching with their babies is something we don’t talk about, but it happens. And it’s REALLY tough to deal with, because who wants to admit it?
Yet, this is a published interview. Moses will likely read this one day (with the internet, nothing goes away). Gwyneth is going to have to be very careful to explain this to him, and hopefully he’ll be able to understand.
What are your reactions to Gwyneth’s interview?
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