After a nonstop career that has spanned more than three decades, Diane Lane tells the October issue of Ladies’ Home Journal that she is taking it easy and paying attention to what matters most: her marriage to Josh Brolin, getting her daughter ready for college and “going with the flow.
About her relationship with Brolin: “At my own peril I will quote Mae West, who said ˜Getting married is like trading in the adoration of many for the sarcasm of one.’ I embrace that. Bring it on. Because that’s what intimacy is: It’s a willingness to be vulnerable, a willingness to bite my tongue and a willingness to set an example of what I believe in. And it’s hard. Look at all of the sages throughout history. They lived alone.”
On why she thinks marriage is worth it: “I recently said to Josh, ˜Being in a relationship makes it impossible to avoid yourself.’ It may not always make me comfortable but it sure has made me a better person. And I’ll take that any day.
On the recent care-free road trip with Brolin through Europe: “There is nothing more liberating than blowing out of town in a rental car. Most people expect you to be in a limo, wearing sunglasses and a designer dress, but there I was with my bare feet up on the dashboard, painting my toenails, popping crackers and watching the world go by ¦ Most of the time we didn’t have a plan. We would just find a hotel-one star, two stars, three stars. It didn’t matter. It’s the moments like those when you marvel at the simplicity of life.
Click on the continue reading link below to read the rest of the interview.
About getting such meaty roles in her 40s: “I have a sort of lip-smacking gratification that I’m still playing in the game. I feel I have more to offer ¦ and that I am being allowed to. That’s the biggest gift. It’s wonderful being the underdog.
On aging on camera and plastic surgery: “Some days I want to get a boob job, some days I want to get the eye lift. Then other days I’m like ˜Absolutely not! Have some integrity! Be those footprints in the sand that lead other forward in a more dignified manner.’ But it’s all about what makes you happy. It’s a hyper-personal domain.
On her female empowered role in the Secretariat: “I felt like I got to touch the Holy Grail. Too often a woman’s self-esteem is wrapped up in how the opposite sex relates to her.
On why women put so much stock in the success of their romantic lives: “There are two things people are motivated by. One is validation, the other is comfort. I think people go for validation every time. Everybody wants somebody else to say they’re understood or they’re agreed with or they’re believed in.
On getting ready for the empty nest: “It’s funny the way Mother Nature works. Around the time your kids want to leave the house, you’re ready for them to. It’s natural on both ends. I wouldn’t be happy if they wanted to move back home when they were 22. I’d be adjusted to my life being mine again.
On what’s next: “I often say, ˜Go with the flow.’ It sounds cheesy, but I don’t care. If you know what the weather is going to be next Thursday, please don’t tell me. I like not knowing. I’d rather not know where a train is going, then get on it and see where it takes me. Not knowing what’s going to happen next is much more fun.
I know that being married to Josh Brolin is a challenge in itself. I admire her for hanging in there!
well she is certainly lucky to have a job/lifestyle that allows her to take time off at a whim and go on a roadtrip without having to worry about how she will pay her mortgage or bills….most of us have to plan these things way in advance, and only have about 2 weeks of vacation per year.
love her, she’s always been a class act…………what an honest clear voice she has very refreshing
tired of these bishes talking bout their kids, family relationships, friends and all other unimportant shyte as if they got the last of all the above.
She was a beautiful child – I remember her as a child actor…and is still beautiful. I hope Josh and her make it. If nothing else, they are a good-looking couple.
she’s so pretty