Cheryl Burke Opens Up To Ellen On Abusive Relationships In Her Past

Wow. Just wow. Cheryl Burke has had a rough time of it. She’s been in abusive relationships. She’s been molested. The media makes fun of her weight. No wonder she has a tough time falling in love now. Cheryl talked to Ellen Degeneres on her show, about all these things and more.

I’m always amazed by how Ellen gets celebrities to open up to her like that.

On rumors about Chad Ochocinco…

Ellen: You were denying that there was a romantic thing going on (with partner Chad Ochocinco) but there was some kind of romantic thing going on.
Cheryl: I mean, we had a fling. We worked so much together. We had great chemistry. But it was the same pattern I had in the past with my boyfriends in the past. He was just really unavailable to me. I just knew that didn’t work and I’ve moved on and he’s obviously moved on.
Ellen: Because he was dating other people at the same time? Is that right?
Cheryl: Well, you just look at his Twitter and see who he’s following and that speaks for itself.

On dancing through the abusive relationships she was involved in…
Ellen: You talk about abusive relationships that you have been in the past that you got yourself out of as well. Both physically and emotionally abusive.
Cheryl: Yeah, I went through a couple of abusive relationships during my whole high school career and I think it just stems from my childhood. But what really mattered most to me was dance and how dancing really influenced me in so many ways. I just followed my passion. I never let dancing down. It was my one true thing that I stayed loyal to that really helped me get through the abuse.

On dealing with the abuse…
Ellen: And when you were in these relationships, one guy hit you with a belt? That’s pretty bad. You would escape to dance? That’s how you dealt with it?
Cheryl: I mean, I guess I could never really escape. That was one of the scariest moments of my life when he did that and I think for me, I didn’t turn to my parents right away. I felt ashamed. I didn’t know how to talk about it. But I did talk to a friend and I eventually got out of it.

On being molested…
Ellen: You had a traumatic incident when you were five years old?
Cheryl: I was five years old when my family hired help to help us around the house. My step-sister and I got molested by this man and I think from that point on I had no self esteem. I had no self-confidence. I didn’t know what to do. So I fell for these men who were unavailable to me. The abuse was something I felt like I deserved and I continued go back to that.

Keep reading if you want to find out more about how Cheryl overcame all these things.

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On how dance helped her get rid of the abuse…
Ellen: How did you figure out how to look at that and get out of that?
Cheryl: Well, the one thing that I stood by was dancing. I always had hopes and dreams for dance. My goal was to always be the best dancer that I could possibly be. No matter what. No matter if my boyfriend told me to stop dancing I never did. I just packed my bags, moved to New York and started my career and then got asked to do “Dancing with the Stars” five years ago.

On the media scrutiny about her weight…
Ellen: You’re not over weight in the least and they’re saying you’re overweight. How did you deal with that?
Cheryl: It was really hard for me. I’m like every human being. It hurt. At that time, I had to put a smile on my face. I was still in the middle of a season. I had to act like nothing hurt me. At the same time, I tried to starve myself. I tried to go and turn to diet pills but I knew that wasn’t for me….It was very hurtful. I don’t think the media understands how hurtful it is when you come out and say something about that.

Message to those in abusive relationships…
Cheryl: First of all, I want to say you’re not alone. There are many people who go through similar situations. The best thing to do, if you’re in the situation, you must talk about it whether it is to a family member or friends or a priest or a therapist. It doesn’t matter, You have to get the message out here. And if you have a person coming to you and saying she or he is getting abused, call the police. It is so dangerous. You’re risking someone’s life.
Ellen: And if one person listens to you and doesn’t do anything about it, talk to another person. If that person doesn’t do anything, talk to another person. Keep talking to someone until someone listens and helps you out. You deserve the help.
Cheryl: And you can always move on from it.

I’m so impressed that Cheryl has managed to deal with all this and keep dancing.

Photos by Fame.