Former ‘The View’ co-host Sherri Shepherd hasn’t had the easiest time of it. Her ex-husband, Lamar Sally, left her before the child they were expecting via surrogate was even born, suing for sole custody. Sherri opted against a custody battle: instead, she said that she shouldn’t have any legal responsibility for the child since a donor egg and surrogate had been used. A judge ultimately ruled Sherri the legal mother, upholding the surrogacy agreement, and she was forced to pay Lamar child support. Now she’s speaking out about this tough time.
Sherri explained what went wrong in the relationship:
My situation was a sense of, I didn’t state what I needed and what I wanted and what I didn’t want for being scared of somebody leaving the relationship. There are consequences to everything, but I was scared to say, ‘That’s not going to work for me. I don’t want that.'”
That’s sad to hear, but perhaps understandable: Lamar didn’t hold back on the problems he had in the relationship- and with her- in media interviews.
Sherri still feels hopeful, however.
I’m the type of person I feel like as long as you can get up, you have another chance. I’ve gone through stuff a nasty divorce, nasty custody battle but for me, I get up and I smile. I go through it and I make it through.”
She said she’s appealing the judge’s ruling that she be listed as the legal mother on Lamar Sally Jr.’s birth certificate.
I am appealing the ruling that happened and he gets his settlement every month. He’s happy. There nothing I can do. It’s out of my hands. You move on and I have a son. I have to take care of him so everything is good.”
Sherri is the primary parent of her 10-year-old son, Jeffrey, whom she had with her first husband. She explained why she didn’t speak out against the backlash she faced when she first decided to argue she shouldn’t be considered Lamar Jr’s legal mother.
As long as the people who know me, know my heart and they know my love for my son and my character and integrity. That’s all I have to stand on. As long I can look at myself in the mirror and look up and go ‘Did I do what you told me to do’ I’m good.”
Sherri also said she plans to share about her experiences.
I do want to do a book for women about stepping past fear. I think it would help a lot of women who are in this place of being scared to walk away, but right now I am just laying low and letting time do it’s work.”
I’m still not sure how I feel about her trying to avoid any responsibility for the baby with Lamar, although it does look like Lamar Sr. did this to take advantage of 18 years of child support. A lot of men would probably like to do what Sherri’s doing, after all. And how can surrogacy work if the parents can change their mind after the child is conceived? I cringe when I think about Lamar Jr. reading about this in the years to come. This is a tough situation. It sounds like Sherri’s maintaining a positive attitude in this situation, and that’s good, at least.
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