If you’re a fan of ABC’s ‘Bachelor’ shows (‘The Bachelor,’ ‘The Bachelorette,’ ‘Bachelor in Paradise,’ etc), then you’ve probably seen Chris Bukowski. He’s become one of the more notorious reality TV personalities in the last few years, with his first appearance on Emily Maynard’s ‘The Bachelorette’ to the time he tried to crash Andi Dorfman’s season of ‘The Bachelorette’ and had to be escorted out by security. In the second season of ‘Bachelor in Paradise,’ he even showed up in an attempt to find a date to his sister’s wedding. Now, Chris has announced his decision to retire from the ‘Bachelor’ franchise and focus on his real life.
Chris posted an open letter- complete with apology- to explain why he’s leaving the franchise.
I’m 28 years old. I’ve been on five ‘The Bachelor’-related TV shows and it’s finally time to hang up the roses. I’ll be honest. I won’t hold anything back. I became obsessed with being on TV. That might not seem normal to some, but for me — in the moment — I always convinced myself I needed to go back…
My life was perfect in every aspect; I had a great family, friends and simply put, I was happy. That being said, the longing for a significant other led me to the spotlight. Looking back on it, some of the stuff I did in preparation for these shows was absolutely crazy. Television became a disease, an obsession, a sickness…”
Chris talked about what it was like going from his “good guy” character on ‘The Bachelorette’ (with Emily) to being a “bad guy” on ‘The Bachelor Pad.’
My competitiveness got the best of me and with that came some serious consequences. I will NEVER forget the feeling I had when I woke up in the Bachelor mansion knowing every single person in that house hated me. I’d never felt that before and honestly, I didn’t know what to do. I wanted to leave but quitting is not in my vocabulary.
He also talked about how the relationship impacted his relationship with his parents (whom he’s photographed with in the main picture above).
‘Bachelor Pad’ was the pinnacle of my Bachelor career to say the least. It almost completely ruined me, my family and my career. As I mentioned before, I couldn’t believe the hate towards me. The tweets, the Facebook messages, the media, etc. — I couldn’t handle it. I’ll never forget going to my parents’ house and witnessing my dad obsess over all of the stuff being said about me. That show ruined my relationship with my father at the time and created distance between me and my mother. What did I do!? Why did I do this!? It was so not worth it. I hated myself even though you couldn’t see it.”
Chris also opened up about what kept him going back into the spotlight despite how badly things went on ‘Bachelor Pad.’
I needed to fix everything because I honestly could not handle all of the negative notoriety. As my popularity fizzled, I felt the pressure from my business peers to get back into the spotlight. People weren’t showing up at the bar just to see me anymore. I was old news…and believe me I was OK with that. But constantly being told that I was irrelevant played a major role in my unexpected arrival during Andi’s season of ‘The Bachelorette.’
It sounds like he’s learned some valuable lessons, however.
From my experiences, I’ve learned the only people who look out for your best interests are your family. My problem is I trust everyone. And that backfires on me. I want you to know that you’ve never experienced the real me…
I can’t fix my mistakes but I can learn from them. I’ve now learned it’s time to let go.
Well, that’s about as honest as it gets, isn’t it? You can read Chris’s entire letter on Rant Now. We know he’s not the only one who’s become practically addicted to fame and celebrity, right? It’s great that he’s able to see that and fix things. Clearly everything is better with his parents: Chris posted this photo on Instagram yesterday:
He also posted this:
It has been a roller coaster ride.. I truly cannot express to you in words how grateful I am for the support that I have gotten tonight. We make light about a lot of things but this has seriously been a struggle for me. After today and after the support I’ve got from my family, friends, and the bachelor franchise is incredible. I’m extremely grateful and this jersey is incredible.. Thank you so much. #BachelorInParadise
A photo posted by Chris Bukowski (@chrisjbukowski) on
Chris is only 28. He has plenty of time to figure things out; he certainly seems to be on the right track!
Photo Courtesy of Chris Bukowski