Now that Jon Hamm and Jennifer Westfeldt have announced their split, the speculation has begun about what happened. There are two stories floating around out there: one is that they disagreed about starting a family and another, pretty different one, is that Jon was basically using Jennifer as a “mother figure.”
Some sources claim the issue was about starting a family: Jon wanted kids while Jennifer did not. An insider claims:
There’s always been a rift. Because he wanted kids and she didn’t.”
That can definitely cause a split: there’s no negotiating whether or not you have kids.
Jennifer has talked about why kids aren’t a priority for her.
I never thought I’d be this age and not have kids. But my life has also gone in a million ways I never anticipated. I kept feeling like I’d wake up with absolute clarity, and I haven’t. And we have a pretty great life together… No one’s had to give up an opportunity they really wanted.”
In another interview she explained:
In reality our lives — Jon’s and mine — are so unconventional in every way, it’s very difficult. I think kids should have something grounded. Jon and I are both children of divorce.”
I can understand that: entertainment careers aren’t really conducive to raising a family. Jon also talked about how both of them being children of divorce had influenced them.
Neither of us have the greatest examples of marriages in our families. But Jen is the love of my life, and we’ve already been together four times longer than my parents were married.”
Meanwhile, other sources were saying something completely different. The issue was the Jon needed a “mother figure” while he was struggling with his drinking, and once he sobered up again in rehab, he didn’t need Jennifer as much anymore. Sources said that Jennifer “kept a tight leash” on Jon and “would take care of him and support him.” One source said Jon is well-liked but can be “a really dark person.”
He has always had demons and needed a mother figure in his life. It was generally assumed that they would break up once he got sober, because he didn’t need to lean on her to take care of him so much.”
Apparently, their families didn’t think their relationship would last. That’s kind of surprising, given that they’ve been together for 18 years! Well, hopefully they can both find happiness.
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