Drew Barrymore is opening up for the first time about the challenges she faced after giving birth to her second child, Frankie, who’s now 18 months old. Frankie joined big sister Olive, who’s now three. The actress suffered from postpartum depression.
I didn’t have postpartum the first time so I didn’t understand it because I was like, ‘I feel great!’ The second time, I was like, ‘Oh, whoa, I see what people talk about now. I understand.’ It’s a different type of overwhelming with the second. I really got under the cloud.”
That must’ve been especially tough: you kind of feel like you know what’s coming after your first child, so to have such a different experience with your second, when you have two little ones to care for, can’t be easy.
Drew talked about how she coped.
I just got right on the idea of, where do I need to be the most? Fifty-fifty would be ideal but life doesn’t work like that. Life is messy. It was just really challenging and I felt overwhelmed. I made a lot of decisions and I definitely changed my work life to suit my parenthood.”
She also learned to appreciate the present moment.
It’s really important. I was in the kids’ class with Frankie and Olive this morning and I started fretting about some piece of work news that was just stressful. You know, in like the Broadway Babies class and it’s the one-hit wonders day, and they’re singing I don’t even know what song, and we’re all doing our lollipop drums and I just thought, ‘Save it until after class.’ One thing at a time.”
That’s a lesson we could all stand to learn! Despite her decision to focus on her family more than work at the moment, Drew doesn’t want her daughters to see work as a bad thing. She explained:
Putting a negative stigma on work is a go-to. It makes us feel like it proves to our children that we don’t want to work, we’d rather be with you. I want them to see that work can be a good, positive, fun, happy thing. I’ve worked since I was 11½ months old so I have to be able to work, too. But I have to put them first. I don’t know if it’s good enough for anyone but I’m doing my best.”
Hey, ultimately, your best is all you can do! It’s generous of Drew to speak up about her experiences. So many mothers are at home suffering with postpartum depression all on their own: hopefully hearing about Drew’s experiences will inspire them to get help or change something up. There is help out there!
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