I don’t know where she finds the time, but in addition to having three shows on the air that are ABC’s TGIT (Thank God It’s Thursday) lineup (‘Grey’s Anatomy,’ ‘Scandal,’ and ‘How To Get Away With Murder’) and a fourth that will debut midseason (‘The Catch’) and raising three daughters by herself, Shonda Rhimes found the time to write a book called ‘The Year of Yes.’ While that year of saying “yes” to things that scared her was life-changing, one thing didn’t change: Shonda has no interest in getting married.
Shonda explained this to Oprah Winfrey, another woman who famously opted not to marry her longtime companion Stedman Graham.
I was able to finally stand up and say, ‘I don’t want to get married.’ At all. I said that out loud. I said it to my family. I said it to my friends. I said it to anybody who asked. It’s never been a dream of mine.”
I’m sure Oprah was able to sympathize ;). They had this discussion on an episode of ‘Super Soul Sunday.’
Shonda compared the pressure on women to marry along with the pressure to have children.
It’s a lot like the desire to want to have children in our society. You’re supposed to want it, and if you don’t want it, what’s wrong with you?”
However the writer-producer said she always knew she wanted kids: she just didn’t want to get married.
I’m one of those people, since I was 5, I could tell you I was going to have kids. I could tell you I was going to have three. I could tell you they were going to be girls. But I have never wanted to get married. I never played bride. I was never interested. I don’t know what it is; I never wanted to get married.”
Oprah shared her perspective on marriage, which was that although she wanted someone to want to marry her, she didn’t actually want to get married.
The moment [Stedman] asked me to marry him, I was like ‘Oh, God! Now I actually have to get married?’ But what I realized is, I don’t want to be married. Because I could not have the life that I created for myself. I couldn’t do it.”
Well, that makes sense, doesn’t it? Shonda and Oprah even posed for a picture together for ‘Super Soul Sunday’:
And here’s Shonda at a book signing for ‘The Year of Yes’:
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