I’ve known for a while now that Mo’Nique did not care as much about monogamy as most wives in the United States. She’s said before that she and husband Sidney Hicks are in an “open” marriage. Now Mo’Nique says her husband has a “pass” to cheat. Okay…
I originate from this place called Africa and what I know of African kings — tell me about one of them that just had one wife. Do you know any of them? I don’t… So when we came [to America], we adopted other people’s ways and that’s called ownership. I don’t want to be owned anymore… We’re humans guys, that’s all.”
I’ve never thought of it as being about ownership, but I understand her reasoning.
When Mo’Nique was asked about giving people a “pass” to cheat when married, she said:
When you say ‘a pass to cheat,’ when you’re with your best friend and you say to your best friend, ‘I’m having these feelings about this person sexually and I want to share it with you.’ When you’re best friends, you can have those open and honest conversations.”
Sure people can feel attractions to others. Do they have to act on them? It sounds like Mo’Nique thinks acting on those feelings is inevitable.
Often times people cheat because of something they’re not getting…All these people on the face of the earth, do you think my eyes won’t say ‘He’s fine!’ or ‘She’s attractive’? And if you want to go further with it, let’s be honest enough to have those conversations. What is it about that person that you find you want to sleep with them? Because they may give you something that I’m simply not willing to do. And if that’s the case, how could I be mad? Because I’m not going to do it, should I deprive you of not having it?”
That is part of what compromise is all about… Well, hey, if this arrangement works for Mo’Nique and Sidney, then that’s great for them. Marriage is hard enough: everyone has to do what works for them. Besides, I know plenty of women who “look the other way” even if they don’t openly condone cheating.
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